Who Are You?

No more labeling of children’s charactersEvery child needs to be seen as a multifaceted being-now shy and withdrawn, now boisterous and outgoing; now slow and thoughtful, now swift and purposeful; now stubborn and uncooperative, now flexible. But never the same, always in process, always with the capacity for change and growth…Every child needs to be seen as a “learner” and encouraged to experience the joy of intellectual discovery and the satisfaction of making progress-however fast or slow…Every child needs to be encouraged to experience the pleasures of sports, song, dance, theater, and art without worrying about having to be the star athlete or a musical genius or the class actress or the family artist. No more imprisoning of children’s hopes and dreams and possibilities by locking them in with labels. Who knows what any of us might become if just one person believed in us enough to help us explore our unexplored selves.”

This is an excerpt from the book, “How to Talk So Kids Can Learn at Home and in School” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Do you ever feel like people slap labels on you? I know that I am guilty of labeling myself and others. This is not always done with malicious intent. Unfortunately, the label that we slap onto ourselves or someone else is incomplete and sometimes even inaccurate. Here’s my challenge to you-scrape off the labels that have been slapped onto you. You don’t have to live by those labels! Go out and join a Meetup group to make some new friends, pick up a fun hobby, volunteer for an important cause, read some stimulating books or travel to an inspiring location. As the author puts it, I challenge you to explore your unexplored self.

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Entrepreneurship, Side Gigs and Side Hustles

Remember the days when companies would pay for your healthcare at 100%? Remember the days when it was easy to buy a house? Remember the days when substantial pay raises and generous bonuses were commonplace? I don’t really remember those days because I was a kid. I’m no financial expert, but I think those financial golden years are gone and I’m not sure if they are coming back or not. That’s why it is important to diversify your career. To me, this is a fairly new concept. I started learning more about this concept from radio shows and I recently read a book entitled “10% Entrepreneur” by Patrick McGinnis. It was a pretty good read.

Have you ever considered entrepreneurship or a Side Gig/Side Hustle? It seems that more people than ever have Side Gigs. These people include Uber drivers, Network Marketing Professionals, craftspeople, inventors, writers, dog walkers, social media pros, etc. I have a Side Gig and have some ideas for new ones. If I lose my 9 to 5 job, at least I will have something to fall back on. Side Hustles are often more fun than 9 to 5’s as well!

New Word for the New Year

A few days ago, my best friend asked me about my New Year’s resolutions. I used to create a list of five to ten resolutions for the year, but I didn’t make a list last year because of an interesting idea that I heard on the radio. Last year, I replaced my list of resolutions with one word for the year. I think that my new word for this year will be FOCUS.

I have a 6-year old, a 2-year old, a 4-month old and a full-time job; sometimes I feel like I never get anything done. I would love to keep up with the laundry, finish my curriculum for my Medical Writing certificate, organize my photos, de-clutter the basement and make significant progress in my side business. I want to accomplish these goals without sacrificing essential time with God, family and friends. In order to accomplish these goals, I will need razor-sharp FOCUS.

What do you hope to accomplish in 2019?

Fear, Love and Politics

It’s time to vote again! I can’t believe that it has already been two years since President Trump won the presidential election. You may be thinking, “Why is she writing about politics in a Wellness blog? This is an unwelcome surprise.” I will try to explain why, so hang on ’til the end!

Back in 2016, when President Trump won the presidency, many people seemed to be in shock. Through all of the noise, the comments of one surprised newscaster really stood out to me. He said something like, “It seems clear that people are not really listening to each other. I’m going to really sit down and start listening to people.” The newscaster’s comments really resonated with me. This is what led me to start interviewing people about their political beliefs. By conducting interviews, I hoped to accomplish three goals: 1. Educate myself on other people’s political views and the reasons for their views. 2. Provide a non-judgmental listening ear to people that wanted to be heard. 3. Promote a sense of loving curiosity and unity. In the end, I didn’t interview a ton of people, but I feel like I learned a lot from both Democrats and Republicans. The below is what I took away from the interviews.

A lot of negative assumptions are made on both sides. Also, some people had the same moral convictions that I had, but when it came to the political realm, they just didn’t apply their beliefs in the same way that I did.

Sometimes fear disguises itself as anger. I realized that I am guilty of getting angry at people with different political views because I am scared for the future. After the interviews, I decided to make more of a conscious effort to focus more on caring about people rather than my fears.

There are many kind, compassionate people on both sides. I found that many people on both sides really care about people and this country.

If you listen to people first, people might want to listen to you afterwards. It was rewarding to be able to freely express my views with loved ones after I gave them a chance to share their own opinions.

Two people on opposing political sides can still love each other and enjoy being around each other. I interviewed a family member who disagreed with me on almost every single political issue, but after we both had a chance to share our opinions, I felt like I loved and respected her even more! Since the interview, we have made more of an effort to see each other more often.

Let’s revisit the question from the beginning of the post again. Why did I bring politics into a Wellness blog?Whether it can be articulated or not, everyone has some sort of political view. I want to encourage you to listen and love the person on the opposing side without fear. This will improve your relationships and your overall wellness! Do you agree?

I Missed the Music

When I was growing up, music was very inspirational and therapeutic for me. I played the piano and violin and also sang at church and in the school choir. I grew up watching classical musicals with Judy Garland, Julie Andrews, Fred Astaire and Gene Kelley. I memorized almost every Disney movie song. Remember cassette tapes? I used to wait for my favorite songs to play on the radio so that I could record them on cassette tapes.

In 2012, after I had my first child, music was somehow replaced by daily tasks and the TV. Four years later, I had the privilege of viewing a live performance of “The King and I.” When the actor started to sing “Hello Young Lovers,” I was surprised that I had to suppress tears from falling down my face. The melody of the song and the voice of the singer was so incredibly beautiful and moving. I felt like a part of me came alive again! It was then that I realized how much I missed music and it was then that I decided to make more of a conscious effort to bring music back into my everyday life.

Nowadays, I enjoy teaching my daughter how to play the piano. If I find that the kids have been watching TV for too long, I turn it off and switch to some of our favorite songs on Spotify. I love watching my daughters sing and dance around the living room as they enjoy music as much as I did when I was a kid. My husband and I also had a couple of impromptu music date nights in our living room. On one occasion, we listened to old school R & B and reminisced about the 90’s until we fell asleep. It was so much fun! I love how music can bring people together and uplift the spirit.

What did you love to do as a kid? Do you still find the time to do what you love?